Learn how to configure mutual device control between partners, enabling both users to control each other's devices without a fixed dominant/submissive hierarchy.
A switch account allows you and your partner to control each other's devices bidirectionally. Unlike the standard top/bottom configuration, neither partner is locked into a single role—both can take control at any time.
Video walkthrough
Prerequisites
Before setting up a switch account, ensure:
- Both partners have existing accounts
- You already have a standard partner connection established (one partner controls the other)
- Access to the Settings > Partners section in your dashboard
Set up mutual control
Navigate to partner settings
Log into your account and go to Settings > Partners. You'll see your existing partner connection where you can control their devices.
Create a new invitation
Click to create a new invitation to your existing partner. Instead of requesting control of their devices, select Give them access to my devices.
Send the invitation
Click Send. Your partner will receive an email with a link to accept the invitation.
Partner accepts the invitation
Your partner clicks the email link, which takes them to Settings > Partners. They'll see a notification that you want to give them access to your devices. They click Accept.
After accepting, both partners can now control and modify each other's devices.
Verify mutual control
Both partners should now see the account switcher in the top-left corner of the dashboard. Each partner can switch between controlling their own account and their partner's account.
The account switcher in the top-left corner lets you quickly toggle between controlling your devices and your partner's devices.
0:00 Hey there. Today I'm going to show you how to make a switch account where you and your partner can control each other's devices and you're not forced to be in a top, bottom, or dominant, submissive pattern.
0:16 So what I've done here is I've logged into my demo top account, deliriousleather13, and I've gone to settings, partners. You can see here that I am a control of thematicvoyeur. I can modify their devices. Likewise, if I switch over to thematicvoyeur, just over here at settings, partners, you can see that deliriousleather can control and modify my devices.
0:38 This is the top, bottom pattern. Now, going back to my top account, I'm going to create a new invitation to thematicvoyeur, but instead of requesting control of all their devices, I'm going to give them control of my devices.
0:50 All right, give them access to my devices. Perfect.
1:03 I'll hit send. The invitation has been sent, and they will receive an email, which they can click, and this email address will take them to settings, partners on the dashboard.
1:15 I'm going to refresh, and on this page you can see that Delirious Leather would like to give you access to their devices.
1:23 I'm going to accept this, and at the top we'll see that this has changed. It now says that I can both control and modify this person's devices.
1:35 Now, we're used to seeing, in the top left, that the top account can switch from controlling their account to controlling their partners, and now we can see that Thematic Voyeur also can do the same, can also now control Delirious Leather's account.
1:52 I'll show you the same thing on the top account. I can control thematic voyeur, they can control me. Perfect. We've set up a switch account.